Ask a LIFE Life Coach is a new, regular column in Vital Source. In each edition, Life University’s top Life Coaching interns will provide guidance and support in response to students’ questions about pressing life issues. You are welcome to submit your question to faculty member Dr. Cherry Collier at cherry.collier@life.edu, who will maintain your confidentiality by keeping your identity anonymous. So, What would you like help with? What are you juggling in your life that you need a fresh perspective on? Get writing!
Q. – I need help! I am a busy wife, mom and student and I work full-time. I give to everyone else, and I have no time at all for me. I am starting to resent this situation I have found myself in. What can I do to make more time for myself, when I have run out of time?
A. – Sounds like you would benefit greatly from working with a Life Coach! All the discipline in the world doesn’t matter, if you don’t know what you really want. What I’m hearing is that you are feeling cheated and perhaps a little resentful for your lack of “me time.” Am I on the right track? You have let everything and everyone else dominate your time. Since you’re only given 24 hours each day to accomplish your tasks, we will have to find a way to make your life work within those parameters.
As your Life Coach, I am here to support you in discovering how you can push past the things that may be blocking you, so you can help yourself succeed. Considering what you have on your plate right now, how can you find a way to live within the 24-hour day?
As we work together to reach your goal of having “me time,” I want to ask you to reflect on a few questions: What would happen if you took a little more time for yourself? What would it look like for you to feel balanced? What values do you have that are not being honored?
Here is a Breakthrough Exercise I would like you to try:
List three things you need to say “no” to in order to say “yes” to three things just for You.
No:
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Yes:
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Part of the Life Coaching process of self-discovery will be for you to recognize your “core values,” eliminate excess “noise” from your life, and set goals that are in line with your values. A Life Coach can help you create structure and effective strategies to accomplish your goals reasonably, which will perhaps lead to fulfilling your life dreams. By holding you accountable for what you want to achieve and helping you to consider your interests first, you will be able to take care of things, set your priorities, and create a shift in thinking that will help you carve out a path that works for you.
